We got a call for placement of an 8 yr old boy yesterday that we have been toying with. Do we or don't we. It really is older than what we are looking for and he's a local boy from our small town. Well I just found out this boy's dad graduated from highschool with hubby. I don't think we want to take him for this main reason. This isn't a family that I think we want to be involved with even if this placement is somewhat voluntary on the parent's side of things. Has anyone ever taken a child that you know the family. It's not like we are "Friends" with them - just acquaintances at best but the town he is from is a mere 8 miles from our house and the only place that we go out to eat at. We are the only *****&**** that live around here. I don't mean that I am scared of the family that they would do anything harmful if they were sober but they do like their alcohol and people do stupid things when they are drinking. HELP PLEASE!!!
2nd call was today from our AASK worker. She has a 6 yr old girl and 4 yr old boy that need to be moved ASAP. Bio mom has a TPR already/ bio dad TPR is scheduled for June 3. They have been in foster care since March 06. Girl has attachment issues (duh! what foster kid doesn't?) and boy at this time doesn't have any diagnosis. I feel bad to say that I'm not even excited at this point. I did tell her to put us on the list of interested families but this will be the 5th call we've received from our worker in 3 months for a child(ren) and none have worked into a placement for us yet. Guess we'll just wait and see what happens.
Then there's the question, what happens if we accept this placement and the birth family due in July chooses us??? What then???
Tuesday, May 15, 2007
Update on BirthMom due in July
Ok, I received a call from the sw who is working with the birth mom/dad that are due in July. She called to let me know that they haven't seen any of the family bios yet cause birth dad is just coming to meet with her for the first time this week. She said they will be looking at the families and should get back to us in the very near future! I verified with her that she got the update that hubby no longer smokes! Finally! Hopefully he can keep up with that now! He quit one time before for 1 1/2 years and then started up again! I was sooo mad at him but I learned in a hurry that harping on him would do neither of us any good. This time he quit and I actually didn't even notice for about 2 weeks! He never smoked around me (unless we were out in the yard working and I could get far enough away to not smell it) or in the house or vehicles or anything so I just never paid any attention to the fact that he wasn't doing it. I'm sooo proud of him!
Keep praying...I was beginning to get a little worried since we hadn't heard anything at all but I think the prayers are working!
We also are waiting for a packet in the mail to get on the waiting list with our local Catholic Charities Infant Program. They only place 3-5 babies a year on average but they also don't have a long waiting list. I know this doesn't mean a whole lot because the birth parents could still choose someone other than us, but someday SOMEONE will choose us, RIGHT???
Keep praying...I was beginning to get a little worried since we hadn't heard anything at all but I think the prayers are working!
We also are waiting for a packet in the mail to get on the waiting list with our local Catholic Charities Infant Program. They only place 3-5 babies a year on average but they also don't have a long waiting list. I know this doesn't mean a whole lot because the birth parents could still choose someone other than us, but someday SOMEONE will choose us, RIGHT???
Week 1 Weigh In
Well truth be told - I didn't lose any weight but I also didn't gain any either. I have done VERY well at cutting out the sweets though so I know it's only a matter of time and I should be starting to see some improvement on the scale.
Sunday, May 13, 2007
Mother's Day Give-a-way
Hey everybody - Click on the link in the sidebar and head on over to 5 minutes for Mom and enter their Mother's Day giveaways.....we all deserve something special on that day.
This will be a sticky post until May 13th...so please scroll down for current posts.
This will be a sticky post until May 13th...so please scroll down for current posts.
Wednesday, May 9, 2007
Not tagged officially, but decided to participate anyways...
I was reading PrayingforBaby's blog (I dont' know how to put a link right here but I have her under my "Blogs I read" on the sidebar) and found this post. She tagged anyone who wanted to play along so I thought....what the heck.
Here Are The Rules:
1. Each player starts with eight random facts/habits about themselves.
2. People who are tagged need to write their own blog about their eight things and post these rules.
3. At the end of your blog, you need to choose eight people to get tagged and list their names.
4. Don’t forget to leave them a comment telling them they’re tagged, and to read your blog.
Ok, so here are some random facts/habits about me....
1. I hate BUGS...doesn't matter what kind they are or how big they are. I hate them, hate them, hate them and don't you dare ask me to kill one even if you want me to step on it with my shoe! NO WAY!
2. I am one of the PICKIEST eaters in the world. My father-in-law and brother-in-law get so mad at me sometimes cause I won't eat what they make. My mom has learned and if she makes something and she knows I won't eat it - she just tells me to bring something else with or at least warns me ahead of time. Some people think I am rude but I am who I am and I can't help it. I've always been this way and always will be this way. I very rarely will try something new. I like what I like and that's about it.
3. I played the piano for 10 years thru elementary/junior/high school and I HATED it. Now I am happy that I can sit down and play and thankful that my "mean" parents made me take the lessons for so long.
4.I am not a "city" girl. I grew up in the country and lived in the city for a short time in college (ok about 3 years total) and I am not a city girl. I can not stand to have neighbors right next door being nosy and wanting to know all your business. Before I officially moved in with hubby I paid $300 a month for an apartment that stored by things but I could not stand to live in it. UGH! I love my country life. It may limit what I can do on short notice (i.e. if I want to bake something - gotta plan for it - there's no running to the store in a hurry ~25 miles away) and we do get snowed in once in a while but I wouldn't change it for the world. Our home and my father-in-law are the only people who live on our road and he's 1 1/2 miles away. I LOVE IT!
6. At age 16, my parents became legal guardians to my 18 year old ex-boyfriend. We dated while he was a junior/ senior in highschool and he was a foster kid. After turning 18 his foster family kicked him out and we remained good friends. He needed some help with paperwork,etc with applying to college and getting assistance and he asked my mom and dad if they would be his legal guardians and they agreed. He had a rough life....found his dad when he was 13 after his dad committed suicide...found his brother E at age 17 after he committed suicide. He came from a family of 9 kids however when mom remarried and R and E, were left behind when the family left the state.
7. I was a cheerleader nerd in highschool. Most people think that the cheerleaders are the "cool" kids. Well not in our highschool. We weren't exactly full fledged "nerds" but we were not the "cool" kids, that's for sure. If you weren't on the danceline in our school - you were not cool. We actually were booed off the floor at a pep rally becuase the danceline was performing after us. We were good too - we won our state competition 4 years in a row while I was in highschool.
8. I was diagnosed with cervical cancer at the ripe old age of 18 (and 2 days after moving to college dorms and starting cheerleading practice) the first time. At the age of 22 (and 3 weeks before I got married) the 2nd time. At the age of 27 "pre-cancer" cells were found again and I am currently waiting until Nov to have anything done about it because afterall (in the doc's words) "It's only PRE-cancerous cells so we have to wait and see if they go away on their own!". GIve me a break...with my history??? Maybe with someone who's never had this before. The first time - the removed 80% of my cervix. The 2nd time - the remove 40%.
People I've tagged (please don't feel like you have to go along with this but I'm still somewhat new at this and don't have too many blogger friends yet....
MamaKBear - http://www.mamakbear.blogspot.com
Susan - http://www.fostercarespacewarp.blogspot.com
Yondalla - http://www.pflagfostermom.blogspot.com
Mungos_mom - http://www.adoptiondecision.blogspot.com
Wanting my House to Be A Home - http://www.house2bahome.blogspot.com
Me - http://www.little-did-i-know.blogspot.com
Glouise - http://www.waitingandhoping.blogspot.com
Trials-Tribulations of Adoption LaLaLand- http://www.trials-tribulations-of-trace.blogspot.com
I know I'm supposed to comment on your sites and let you know I tagged you and I PROMISE I will do that on Monday if you haven't already found this post, but I started this on Wed 5/9 and it's now 5/11 and it's 5:30 pm and I need to get this posted but it gets any older. For those of you new to my blog who I tagged - I hope you don't mind. I found your blogs online and by all means - you don't have to participate. IF there's anyone reading this I didn't tag - please feel free to go along with this....leave me a comment so I can get to know people better.
Here Are The Rules:
1. Each player starts with eight random facts/habits about themselves.
2. People who are tagged need to write their own blog about their eight things and post these rules.
3. At the end of your blog, you need to choose eight people to get tagged and list their names.
4. Don’t forget to leave them a comment telling them they’re tagged, and to read your blog.
Ok, so here are some random facts/habits about me....
1. I hate BUGS...doesn't matter what kind they are or how big they are. I hate them, hate them, hate them and don't you dare ask me to kill one even if you want me to step on it with my shoe! NO WAY!
2. I am one of the PICKIEST eaters in the world. My father-in-law and brother-in-law get so mad at me sometimes cause I won't eat what they make. My mom has learned and if she makes something and she knows I won't eat it - she just tells me to bring something else with or at least warns me ahead of time. Some people think I am rude but I am who I am and I can't help it. I've always been this way and always will be this way. I very rarely will try something new. I like what I like and that's about it.
3. I played the piano for 10 years thru elementary/junior/high school and I HATED it. Now I am happy that I can sit down and play and thankful that my "mean" parents made me take the lessons for so long.
4.I am not a "city" girl. I grew up in the country and lived in the city for a short time in college (ok about 3 years total) and I am not a city girl. I can not stand to have neighbors right next door being nosy and wanting to know all your business. Before I officially moved in with hubby I paid $300 a month for an apartment that stored by things but I could not stand to live in it. UGH! I love my country life. It may limit what I can do on short notice (i.e. if I want to bake something - gotta plan for it - there's no running to the store in a hurry ~25 miles away) and we do get snowed in once in a while but I wouldn't change it for the world. Our home and my father-in-law are the only people who live on our road and he's 1 1/2 miles away. I LOVE IT!
6. At age 16, my parents became legal guardians to my 18 year old ex-boyfriend. We dated while he was a junior/ senior in highschool and he was a foster kid. After turning 18 his foster family kicked him out and we remained good friends. He needed some help with paperwork,etc with applying to college and getting assistance and he asked my mom and dad if they would be his legal guardians and they agreed. He had a rough life....found his dad when he was 13 after his dad committed suicide...found his brother E at age 17 after he committed suicide. He came from a family of 9 kids however when mom remarried and R and E, were left behind when the family left the state.
7. I was a cheerleader nerd in highschool. Most people think that the cheerleaders are the "cool" kids. Well not in our highschool. We weren't exactly full fledged "nerds" but we were not the "cool" kids, that's for sure. If you weren't on the danceline in our school - you were not cool. We actually were booed off the floor at a pep rally becuase the danceline was performing after us. We were good too - we won our state competition 4 years in a row while I was in highschool.
8. I was diagnosed with cervical cancer at the ripe old age of 18 (and 2 days after moving to college dorms and starting cheerleading practice) the first time. At the age of 22 (and 3 weeks before I got married) the 2nd time. At the age of 27 "pre-cancer" cells were found again and I am currently waiting until Nov to have anything done about it because afterall (in the doc's words) "It's only PRE-cancerous cells so we have to wait and see if they go away on their own!". GIve me a break...with my history??? Maybe with someone who's never had this before. The first time - the removed 80% of my cervix. The 2nd time - the remove 40%.
People I've tagged (please don't feel like you have to go along with this but I'm still somewhat new at this and don't have too many blogger friends yet....
MamaKBear - http://www.mamakbear.blogspot.com
Susan - http://www.fostercarespacewarp.blogspot.com
Yondalla - http://www.pflagfostermom.blogspot.com
Mungos_mom - http://www.adoptiondecision.blogspot.com
Wanting my House to Be A Home - http://www.house2bahome.blogspot.com
Me - http://www.little-did-i-know.blogspot.com
Glouise - http://www.waitingandhoping.blogspot.com
Trials-Tribulations of Adoption LaLaLand- http://www.trials-tribulations-of-trace.blogspot.com
I know I'm supposed to comment on your sites and let you know I tagged you and I PROMISE I will do that on Monday if you haven't already found this post, but I started this on Wed 5/9 and it's now 5/11 and it's 5:30 pm and I need to get this posted but it gets any older. For those of you new to my blog who I tagged - I hope you don't mind. I found your blogs online and by all means - you don't have to participate. IF there's anyone reading this I didn't tag - please feel free to go along with this....leave me a comment so I can get to know people better.
May Day Weight Loss Challenge
Ok - check out the button on my side bar. I just found it today so I'm a day late but better a day late to start then never, right???
1. Weight Loss goal - 15 pounds
2. Weight History - Highest weight 152 lbs...lowest weight 119 lbs...current weight somewhere in between.
3. How to achieve this goal - I am going to cut out the "junk" food (i.e. candy! my weakness!) and I'm going to exercise for a minimum of 10 min per night 3 nights per week.
I hope I can accomplish this. I've wanted to for a long time. I have sooo many people tell me that I do not need to loose weight; however, I am doing this for myself. My hubby has had some issues in the past with feeling secure in our relationship and he for one is not very supportive. After all, I am 5'10" tall and I know I don't 'need' to loose the weight but if I want to for myself to be happy, is there anything wrong with that? I'm not doing it for anyone but ME! I want to be selfish for a change and think of ME! What's so bad about that? Afterall, I have always had to compete with my twin sis and she's always been the "skinny" one. Bikini season is coming and I want to loose a few pounds and tone up. Here I go...
1. Weight Loss goal - 15 pounds
2. Weight History - Highest weight 152 lbs...lowest weight 119 lbs...current weight somewhere in between.
3. How to achieve this goal - I am going to cut out the "junk" food (i.e. candy! my weakness!) and I'm going to exercise for a minimum of 10 min per night 3 nights per week.
I hope I can accomplish this. I've wanted to for a long time. I have sooo many people tell me that I do not need to loose weight; however, I am doing this for myself. My hubby has had some issues in the past with feeling secure in our relationship and he for one is not very supportive. After all, I am 5'10" tall and I know I don't 'need' to loose the weight but if I want to for myself to be happy, is there anything wrong with that? I'm not doing it for anyone but ME! I want to be selfish for a change and think of ME! What's so bad about that? Afterall, I have always had to compete with my twin sis and she's always been the "skinny" one. Bikini season is coming and I want to loose a few pounds and tone up. Here I go...
Thursday, May 3, 2007
Need your prayers.....
We were notified yesterday that there is a birth mom/birth dad that are due in July that want to give the baby girl up for adoption. Both parents have some mental issues and know that they cannot care for the child. We have sent off all our information as well as a couple family pictures and now we wait.....and wait....and wait.....I'm sure there are some of you out there who know exactly what I am feeling right now. I'm trying to not get too excited because, heck, we've been down this road before just not with an infant and I do know that there were many families interested in this child but how do you not get excited at least a little bit???? The paperwork states that the family wants a semi-open adoption. Well in our state I know you can't list any "promises" to the birth parents on the paperwork but for those of you out there, what kind of open adoptions have you done and how do they work for you? To what extent are your adoption "open".
Please keep us in your prayers that things go our way. I'll keep you posted as I know more and I would LOVE to hear your thoughts.
Please keep us in your prayers that things go our way. I'll keep you posted as I know more and I would LOVE to hear your thoughts.
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