Thursday, June 26, 2008

I told you so

The first thing I told my therapist when I started treatment for my ED was that I was scared to death that me seeking treatment would affect our ability to adopt. Well guess what????

Last Wed (yep the day of my last post- 18th of july) I got a letter in the mail from our adoption agency. I thought to myself...oh great...what's this...our denial letter??? Guess what it was...Our denial letter! To quote part of the letter...

"Due to Jody's treatment and the difficulties your family is going thru...we find it in our best interest to close your adoption file with our agency. IF in the future you still want to adopt a child thru our organization, please feel free to contact me and we will discuss the POSSIBLITY of re-opening your file".

Give me a break! What a load of crap. The letter was filled with a bunch of untrue statments. I called them last Thursday and talked to the director. She said she would call me back this past Monday. Guess what??? She NEVER called. I called her Tuesday and Wednesday. I will be calling her again in a few minutes! UGH!!!! I'm not giving up this dream...but it is SOOOO hard to go on!


Trace said...

I'm so sorry. You've been dealing with a load of crapola this year.

Story of our Life said...

I've been threw the same treatment (just not talked about it to openely on my blog).

When we started our adoption process a year and half ago we were upfront w/the social worker. She said all she needed was "clarification" that I was "stable" and that we could move fwd.

We ended up not moving fwd do to the fact we had a disruption and it is was/still haunting us.

However, that aspect was "okay" and as long as your pdoc, therapist and primary docs are all on the same page - you shoudl be okay.

Julie said...

I am sorry that sux. Hang in there- the doors will open up!

Kathy said...

Oh Jody, I am so sorry!

I just don't understand why anyone would make it such a big issue...that they would deny you to adopt again, etc. You're human, you've gotten the counseling, and you're moving on. It makes me SO mad that they'd do that!!

Hang in there. I hope that things can get cleared up, and that they will approve you again.


Diane said...

Sorry to hear what you are going through. We haven't even began our adoption yet. Completely set of circumstances anyway. Do hang in there, doors will in fact open up for you sooner than you might think!


noswimmers said...

What a bunch of crap! I'm still so proud of you for getting help for yourself.