Thursday, May 8, 2008

Update from April 28 post

1. Emilee never went to psych hospital.

2. Hubby and I start marriage counseling tomorrow. Maybe we can work things out afterall??? He has learned that I mean business when it comes to emotional abuse.

3. We were notified tonight (after JP was in bed) that he will be having his first visit with his PATH home tomorrow night thru Sat evening. Hubby gets to give JP the "good" news in the morning and then drop him off at school. I will be calling transport sw and letting her know where to get his overnight bag at. I will also let her know how "happy" we are that we were given so much notice for this visit. Considering I called 2 weeks ago asking to have him moved and we have heard NOTHING from ANYONE since then. Now we get less than 10 hrs notice to have a bag packed. They are moving him to the PATH home so he and Emilee can be together. There was a message on our machine tonight when Hubby and JP got home and JP asked what it was all about. Hubby told him that it sounded like he would be moving to live with Emilee and JP started crying. He said "Emilee is mean to me and hurts me, daddy. I don't want to live with her". Hubby told him that mommy would call the sw and find out what was going on and he and Hubby would talk about it in the morning. Poor guy. I'm FURIOUS with the system. I know I called asking for him to be moved, but things are different now. Not that I don't think it may be in Hubby and I's best interest to focus on US for a while, I don't agree with putting JP and Emilee in the same home. He has come so far in the month or so since Emilee was moved that I know he is just going to get set back further and further. He's the one who will suffer the most thru this and it's not fair. The sw said, "The state requires us to keep siblings together". Ummmm so when one sibling is abusive towards need to keep them together???? Whatever. I give up.


Mary said...

This is where the guardian ad litem and therapists can come in. JP needs some protection from his sister and has a right to live in a safe environment, just as Emilee does.

While in a perfect world, siblings are kept together, in a true perfect world they wouldn't be in care anyway.

I'm praying for everyone for the strength to get through all of this.

Julie said...

I agree with Mary- I hope and pray that things work out for you and hubby and for JP- :(

noswimmers said...

I'm so sorry, for have so much going on right now. Remember to take care of YOU.

Angela :-) said...


I have a new email address--will you send an invite to the caring bridge site to arroller at q dot com please?

Angela :-)

Kathy said...

I'm glad to hear that you and hubby are trying to work things out.

I'm so sorry to hear about JP. I know you have so much to deal with right now.

From our situation with Destiny, and her siblings, it is definitely better that they are in separate homes...and even the sw's agree at the awesome job we (us and the other adoptive family) are doing with the children, and keeping them in touch with each other. So, it shows that siblings can live in different family's and thrive...while still keeping the sibling bonds strong. If only more sw's would open their minds up to what's best for ALL of the siblings, and not focus on having them together being "the only/best way".

I hope that things will work out well for JP, and for you guys as well.


Nicki Mann said...

I haven't been reading blogs in a while so I am just trying to catch up. So sorry that everything seems to be going crazy right now! You'll be in my thoughts and I really hope everything turns out the way it is meant to turn out!